HOW OTHERS TREAT YOU DOESN’T DEFINE YOU

Photo by Adrian Fernández on Unsplash

Originally published on my old blog, Roses and Jannah, on September 15, 2017.

I strive to go the extra mile when it comes to inclusiveness.

I know what it’s like to be ignored. I know what it’s like to feel insignificant, as the words that leave my mouth seem to bounce off of the attention of those who I am trying to talk to, as they throw away what I try to communicate to them as if it’s not important enough. As if I am not important enough nor worthy of their time. I know what it’s like to feel left out. Excluded.

Like you don’t belong. Like you’re not worthy enough to be part of the group.

I know what it’s like to feel alone.

And I never want anyone else to feel the same way.

So if there is someone sitting by themselves at a party while everyone else is eating together at an adjacent table, invite them over. If you see someone continuously getting interrupted or talked over continuously when they are trying to talk within a large group of people, turn your attention to them in a way that everyone else in the group will follow suit. If you see a lack of acknowledgment of someone by another person or by a group within which you are conversing with, show importance towards the person being brushed off. Be a role model for those who are acting snobbish and thinking that they are so much better than the person they are ignoring, acting as if they’re not important enough to be recognized.

One thing I want to ask people who intentionally exclude people, disregarding their feelings, how does it make you feel good, of all things, to put someone else down? To make them feel as if they are not worthy of your attention or time, unlike other people in the group whom you falsely deem better?

How do you feel empowered as you step over other people to feel like you have raised yourself, when in reality, you have stooped low, sinking into the void of what your character reflects? How can you fuel yourselves through the sadness and disappointment of others?

Although you may be feeling like you have achieved something, thinking that your arrogance is a golden reflection of yourself in the eyes of others, in reality, your thinking and actions are just reflections of the dirtiness and flaws inside of you, rather than the people you attempt to make feel unworthy of themselves.

For those people who have been or continue to be in the situation of being and feeling excluded, know this for sure: you are worth it. You and your thoughts and ideas are valued. You are not what they treat you, nor are you how they treat you. If you believe in God (SWT), always remember that you are the valuable being that He created you to be. If you don’t believe in God, know that you are priceless and that you are worth it.

How others treat you doesn’t define you. You define yourself. With your actions and how you treat others.

How others treat you defines them, not you, Their actions define them, and do not define you.

Don’t give value to the false opinions of those who don’t give value to you and your worthiness.

You are worthy. Your ideas are valuable. Your thinking is priceless.

You are you. So be proud of that.

One Comment

  1. Ita

    Very well said. I am not the most sociable person and I rarely put myself into this sort of situation anymore but I know the feeling, also, of being ignored when I have. Thank you for being kind to people.

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